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Drove to see my dad in hospital yesterday. Not a lot of change there. Stayed up helping with homework. Trying to help now, but we're all a bit too tired. For which, an obvious solution.
posted by steve at 10:19 PM
7 Comments:
Hi Steve,
I've droopped by to catch up on your news. Please wish your family all the best from me. It's one of those times when all you seem to have is plenty of waiting time. When all you want to do is help but not know what you can do to help.
Keep the faith, Steve.
My thoughts are with you and your loved ones
Best wishes
Annie
Hi Steve
How's your father? I hope all is well with you and your family.
My thoughts are with you.
Best wishes... I put the kettle on, and was hope a chat and a quick cup of tea might help. Maybe another time.
I'll pop back soon all the best for now,
Annie
Annie, that's really very nice. I'll put the kettle on...there. Well, it hasn't gone so well with my Dad, although he is out of intensive care now. We now need to find the next place for him, which oddly enough may end up being a place where I worked many years ago helping take care of people who couldn't take care of themselves, which is what is needed. That will seem strange and also rather sad. He's conscious some of the time and last week was able to talk with me a bit, but overall it is impossible to know what the recovery will be like. I guess that is pretty common with injuries like this - hard to predict.
(pause to pour hot water)
The sun is streaming in through the window this morning. There's a bake sale going on to raise funds for the school swim team, one of my daughters is on the team, a co-captain actually, and in a while I need to go along and help with the end of the sale. Apart from the stuff with my Dad things are good. I don't get a lot of writing done lately, spending more time with music, there were a few performances, but those are done now.
(add milk and sugar)
As I look around here there are quite a few things needing attention, and my son is working at solving a Rubik's cube puzzle. He was looking online for help with it last night, so I imagine he may actually get it done today. We saw the 'Pursuit of Happyness' movie a while ago and I think maybe that prompted the interest.
(sip)
I do also hope that you and your crew are well. Sorry I haven't been to your blog lately, it did sound like your recent class was working out better than the one a while back. Again, it's great that you are taking the time to work on those skills and put your writing out for people to read. Always a learning experience.
(two sips)
I'll likely go to visit my Dad this weekend, it's really more to be with my Mom and help her through this time, although he may actually respond. There is a lot of waiting, as you mentioned earlier.
(more sips - answer call to come and help with the bake sale)
OK, well it's been delightful - thank you for notes and the tea break :)
Steve
Back from the bake sale, which was a success. Realized that I completely left out any mention above of my wife's Dad, who is also going through significant medical stuff and resulting life transition in terms of where they will live. I haven't gone into much detail on them, but it is a difficult time there also...
Thank you for the tea and chat, Steve.
I know what it's like trying to find the best place for your father. At the moment, my sister and I are going through the same with our Mum. She has had too many falls to stay where she is and the careline who run the warden flats where she lives have told us she needs to be moved into 24hour care.
My sister and I have been able to chose a home where she can have her pet birds and they play bingo there too. But is Mum happy No! She is tell everyone we are bad and wicked daughters who don't love her.
Yesterday the careline called me to tell me she'd had another fall. My son and I dashed over to pick her off the floor. The parmanedic told her she had, had too many falls to be left on her own. I told him she was going into 24 hour care next week. 'No, I'm not' Mum to shout. But what else can you do, Steve. It so hard when all you want is what is best for them. My mother is only 74 years old but she never been one for look after herself properly.
I'll let you know what happens next week when she moves in to her new home next Friday.
Hugs & best wishes for you.
Annie
Difficult times...Annie, good that you and your sister can sort out what needs to be done, not easy but clearly you do love your mum by taking care of what she needs.
Got a call that my dad will have surgery to deal with some internal bleeding, so it looks like more hospital time for now.
More later...
Thanks again and best wishes,
Steve
My prayers are with you,
My sister and her husband are taking Mum to the home today. They have booked in to have a meal with her. My sister felt it was best if they just took her today,then next saturday we would go together. We are hoping it will be easier once Mum settles in.
Life seems to get harder the older one gets.
All the best for your father, Steve.
Best wishes to you and your family
Annie
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